corboy Wrote:
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>
> Adroit technicians such as expert salesmen and
> commercial gurus know how to use
> social techniques and room set ups to trigger
> intense feelings of intimacy -- far more
> intense than most of us experience in genuine
> gradual friendships.
>
> This is deeply physical. We are social mammals. We
> are creaturely.
>
> All my life, I was convinced I was supposed to be
> self sufficient. Got it
> from my family, (lots of alcoholics and alcoholic
> attitudes in both sides
> of my family) and further entrenched by American
> culture and its myth of
> self sufficiency.
>
Yes, Corboy,
The human brain is wired to respond favourably to social contact. We are social creatures. Just like monkeys, and just like wolves or even bees, we live in complex social groups where co-operation reaps rewards.
Society wouldn't have developed to the extent that it has if people couldn't work together and get things done.
I think it's good to be independent up to a degree... you are probably going to need to get a job, earn a living, learn to cook, buy your own cloths, etc. All this is pretty important.
But you will still need others for love, support, communication.... especially if something goes wrong and you need some help!
Cults prey on our desire to find the perfect, loving social group: the surrogate family. They seduce us into believing they are the ultimate family, where everything is perfect. We just have give up our own identity first, in order to join them.
For a lot of people this is a small price to pay.
Moo even says "were you ever all that interesting in the first place?" He is saying "let go of who you are"; he is telling people that their very identity is a hindrance to them!!
Of course he is... It would be very inconvenient for him to manage people who really did care about themselves and who have individual opinions!
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>
> Adroit technicians such as expert salesmen and
> commercial gurus know how to use
> social techniques and room set ups to trigger
> intense feelings of intimacy -- far more
> intense than most of us experience in genuine
> gradual friendships.
>
> This is deeply physical. We are social mammals. We
> are creaturely.
>
> All my life, I was convinced I was supposed to be
> self sufficient. Got it
> from my family, (lots of alcoholics and alcoholic
> attitudes in both sides
> of my family) and further entrenched by American
> culture and its myth of
> self sufficiency.
>
Yes, Corboy,
The human brain is wired to respond favourably to social contact. We are social creatures. Just like monkeys, and just like wolves or even bees, we live in complex social groups where co-operation reaps rewards.
Society wouldn't have developed to the extent that it has if people couldn't work together and get things done.
I think it's good to be independent up to a degree... you are probably going to need to get a job, earn a living, learn to cook, buy your own cloths, etc. All this is pretty important.
But you will still need others for love, support, communication.... especially if something goes wrong and you need some help!
Cults prey on our desire to find the perfect, loving social group: the surrogate family. They seduce us into believing they are the ultimate family, where everything is perfect. We just have give up our own identity first, in order to join them.
For a lot of people this is a small price to pay.
Moo even says "were you ever all that interesting in the first place?" He is saying "let go of who you are"; he is telling people that their very identity is a hindrance to them!!
Of course he is... It would be very inconvenient for him to manage people who really did care about themselves and who have individual opinions!