A note about teasing and laughter and joking.
Teasing, joking and laughter do not create a safe relationship.
Teasing, joking and laughter are nuturing ONLY after a relationship has been
established and mutually negotiated as safe.
If you are led to feel safe in a relationship and suddenly the other person slips in jokes and teases that hurt and confuse, this is a (Corboys opinion) a WARNING SIGNAL TO STEP BACK.
A warning signal to step back and state that you feel hurt and demand this stop. If the person tries to confuse you or put you down, or claim you over reacted, GET OUT. Get out no matter how secure you were led to feel.
In a genuinely secure relationship, joking and teasing never hurt. If someone feels hurt, the other person stops it at once and apologizes at once.
The test of any relationship is how you are treated after you feel emotionally invested, not how you are led to feel during the courtship phase.
Teasing, joking and laughter do not create a safe relationship.
Teasing, joking and laughter are nuturing ONLY after a relationship has been
established and mutually negotiated as safe.
If you are led to feel safe in a relationship and suddenly the other person slips in jokes and teases that hurt and confuse, this is a (Corboys opinion) a WARNING SIGNAL TO STEP BACK.
A warning signal to step back and state that you feel hurt and demand this stop. If the person tries to confuse you or put you down, or claim you over reacted, GET OUT. Get out no matter how secure you were led to feel.
In a genuinely secure relationship, joking and teasing never hurt. If someone feels hurt, the other person stops it at once and apologizes at once.
The test of any relationship is how you are treated after you feel emotionally invested, not how you are led to feel during the courtship phase.