This was written by a former follower of a Hindu guru. But it applies to
sufi and theosophical groups as well.
" It actually might be true that you start understanding yourself better from all the psycho work that you do, but it remains a mental understanding that is not diving deep in the sensations and energies behind the traumas. Therefore the progress remains at the intellectual level and he maintains the control over your wounds and shadows."
One form of 'flattery' is when the recruiter or mentor or therapist runs late and apologizes to you. If you've if you've spent your life apologizing to the people who mistreat you, their apology, their consideration for your feelings will enchant you.
Over time, that person or higher ranking leaders in the organization will run late, keep you waiting. They will do this after you have become emotionally dependent on them, and after they've trained you to be afraid of them.
sufi and theosophical groups as well.
" It actually might be true that you start understanding yourself better from all the psycho work that you do, but it remains a mental understanding that is not diving deep in the sensations and energies behind the traumas. Therefore the progress remains at the intellectual level and he maintains the control over your wounds and shadows."
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They all describe the same manipulation tactics :
being flattered in the beggining, making them feel understood but then subtle ways to scare about leaving him, to demand total and unconditional devotion to him, to cut ties with everything else, to lose all self-autonomy and trust in self.
He is using : fear, guilt and shame. These are the main tools of Shunyamurti to play with the threads of his puppet followers using his very deep psychological understanding.
If you have guilt, fear or shame issues, and if you are potentially useful for his vision, he will use these to try to make a puppet slave out of you to serve his vision without self autonomy, freedom while believing that you are understanding yourself better and growing spiritually.
It actually might be true that you start understanding yourself better from all the psycho work that you do, but it remains a mental understanding that is not diving deep in the sensations and energies behind the traumas. Therefore the progress remains at the intellectual level and he maintains the control over your wounds and shadows.
One form of 'flattery' is when the recruiter or mentor or therapist runs late and apologizes to you. If you've if you've spent your life apologizing to the people who mistreat you, their apology, their consideration for your feelings will enchant you.
Over time, that person or higher ranking leaders in the organization will run late, keep you waiting. They will do this after you have become emotionally dependent on them, and after they've trained you to be afraid of them.