One way domineering people elicit loyalty is to use pathos.
These types often have a lot of self pity and in very confusing ways
combine arrogance with the pitifulness of a small, sad wounded child - that
sad child is really a true part of themselves, but usually split off.
People also make friends or become partnered while in communities focused on such domineering types. Its hard to leave when you consider the pain of ending friendships (often intense due to trauma bonding) formed while loyal to a demanding leader.
Finally, to leave means being alone. There was companionship when under the leader's thumb. When leaving, you feel alone and face the things you've witnessed, things you've done that are humiliating and painful.
Friends all Corboy can offer is this:
You'll no longer be a divided soul. Coherance brings its own reward.
Two, look for people who have made the same journey.
That is why message boards like this one are so helpful.
And this is why trolls arrive.
These types often have a lot of self pity and in very confusing ways
combine arrogance with the pitifulness of a small, sad wounded child - that
sad child is really a true part of themselves, but usually split off.
People also make friends or become partnered while in communities focused on such domineering types. Its hard to leave when you consider the pain of ending friendships (often intense due to trauma bonding) formed while loyal to a demanding leader.
Finally, to leave means being alone. There was companionship when under the leader's thumb. When leaving, you feel alone and face the things you've witnessed, things you've done that are humiliating and painful.
Friends all Corboy can offer is this:
You'll no longer be a divided soul. Coherance brings its own reward.
Two, look for people who have made the same journey.
That is why message boards like this one are so helpful.
And this is why trolls arrive.