Thank you PapajisaysNO about the link and corboy for quoting the comment:
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“Do remember too, people (men and women) who are attracted to the narcissistic personality were ..more than likely, raised by a narc, either mother or father. They were SET UP, Trained..if you like..to live within these boundaries.
That makes it harder for them to "see" what's happening and then to "change" their circumstances.
Please warn people, if you're in this situation and your partner is obviously narcissistic personality disorder, then realize you could be staying inside of the relationship bec/ of your NEED to be tightly controlled. Being tightly controlled is what you're accustomed to, to you, it means "love". Being a more submissive person was the way you were trained to please your parent. Pleasing the narc partner is NOT different. Its very convoluted...NOT always straightforward.? “
This helps understand why one is more vulnerable or receptive than the other.
It is a great help, for me at least, to understand why I followed the same pattern of partners, teachers until blindly abdicating all to a self proclaimed guru.
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“Do remember too, people (men and women) who are attracted to the narcissistic personality were ..more than likely, raised by a narc, either mother or father. They were SET UP, Trained..if you like..to live within these boundaries.
That makes it harder for them to "see" what's happening and then to "change" their circumstances.
Please warn people, if you're in this situation and your partner is obviously narcissistic personality disorder, then realize you could be staying inside of the relationship bec/ of your NEED to be tightly controlled. Being tightly controlled is what you're accustomed to, to you, it means "love". Being a more submissive person was the way you were trained to please your parent. Pleasing the narc partner is NOT different. Its very convoluted...NOT always straightforward.? “
This helps understand why one is more vulnerable or receptive than the other.
It is a great help, for me at least, to understand why I followed the same pattern of partners, teachers until blindly abdicating all to a self proclaimed guru.