Swissanalyst, in what you've written you have in my opinion, identified the flaw in two popular spiritual paths:
Neo Advaita and all of Vajrayana (commonly referenced as Tibetan Buddhism)
I would go so far as to suggest that any system whatsoever that postulates a level of attainment where a human being can regard conventional ethics and boundaries as illusional, as leela and only for non realized persons... such a system will produce "realized beings" who behave as out of control toddlers in adult bodies.
Neo Advaita and all of Vajrayana (commonly referenced as Tibetan Buddhism)
I would go so far as to suggest that any system whatsoever that postulates a level of attainment where a human being can regard conventional ethics and boundaries as illusional, as leela and only for non realized persons... such a system will produce "realized beings" who behave as out of control toddlers in adult bodies.