Before we demand that victimized women speak publicly, please consider that
its possible that as part of the grooming and recruitment process, this woman was befriended and encouraged to confide personal information about herself to
someone she regarded as a friend or mentor - but who actually coaxed this information from her not as a friend but as a procurer for the male - whether guru or Hollywood moghul.
Repeat: in some very bad cases, a victim of a sexual predator may have already lost her privacy before she was physically assaulted, because she was betrayed into confiding her personal information to someone she regarded as a friend but who as not a friend at all, but the procurer for the powerful man.
She's lost her ideal of the guru, and also discovered that her beloved confidante was part of the set up. That means, she's been assaulted by the man she idealized but has lost the one 'friend' she needed to help her make sense of all this.
Because too often, as part of the grooming process, a victim is led to isolate herself from other people and put all her trust in her intimate frend - who is actually betraying her.
Friends, it is a sad and ugly fact that if a woman is known to have been
used and discarded by a powerful male, she's at risk of being targeted by other predators.
This is an area where life is "not fair", it is a shitty retrograde stance, but
unfortunately, it exists.
So, before we judge and berate victims of assault for not speaking out.
What if a woman wants to continue yoga or meditation study after being assaulted
by a male guru?
She risks being gossiped against by women as well as men. Am sorry to report that girls and women are ghastly gossips and slut shamers.
The worst abuse of all is when older women who have been used by powerful males
keep favor by befriending younger women and then and send them to the guru.
These older women re enact their own betrayal and abuse by becoming victim perpetrators. They rationalize all this as being empowered.
An 18th century royal mistress discovered her influence was fading. She kept the
king's favor by recruiting young girls for him.
This "empower yourself by discarding boundaries" has become powerful in the media and is used to rationalize a myriad of boundary dissolving behaviors
and suppress one's own dismay.
So a girl or woman who has been used by a guru may have a double trauma:
She's been betrayed by the guru and and by a woman who was her intimate friend.
In such a situation, a guru's victim may have good reason to fear that if she dares speak publicly, her identity will be known, because someone who earned her
trust as a close friend was the one who set her up to be groomed by the guru.
We do *not* know at this time if this is what happened in relation to Moo.
I am describing this as an all too common scenario and pointing out
that it is very possible that many persons who are sexually abused by gurus
are not mere faces in the crowd but are identified, known by name, their trust
and personal information is elicited by someone close to the guru who is part of the grooming process.
In short, many who are sexually victimized have already lost their privacy
before the guru violates them. They've already lost their privacy because someone close to the guru has, as part of the grooming process, befriended them
and elicted personal information from them.
This is part of the silencing process and what makes it so frightening for victims to speak publicly. Even when concealed behind a username, a victim
may be identifiable to the person who recruited her for a powerful man.
its possible that as part of the grooming and recruitment process, this woman was befriended and encouraged to confide personal information about herself to
someone she regarded as a friend or mentor - but who actually coaxed this information from her not as a friend but as a procurer for the male - whether guru or Hollywood moghul.
Repeat: in some very bad cases, a victim of a sexual predator may have already lost her privacy before she was physically assaulted, because she was betrayed into confiding her personal information to someone she regarded as a friend but who as not a friend at all, but the procurer for the powerful man.
She's lost her ideal of the guru, and also discovered that her beloved confidante was part of the set up. That means, she's been assaulted by the man she idealized but has lost the one 'friend' she needed to help her make sense of all this.
Because too often, as part of the grooming process, a victim is led to isolate herself from other people and put all her trust in her intimate frend - who is actually betraying her.
Friends, it is a sad and ugly fact that if a woman is known to have been
used and discarded by a powerful male, she's at risk of being targeted by other predators.
This is an area where life is "not fair", it is a shitty retrograde stance, but
unfortunately, it exists.
So, before we judge and berate victims of assault for not speaking out.
What if a woman wants to continue yoga or meditation study after being assaulted
by a male guru?
She risks being gossiped against by women as well as men. Am sorry to report that girls and women are ghastly gossips and slut shamers.
The worst abuse of all is when older women who have been used by powerful males
keep favor by befriending younger women and then and send them to the guru.
These older women re enact their own betrayal and abuse by becoming victim perpetrators. They rationalize all this as being empowered.
An 18th century royal mistress discovered her influence was fading. She kept the
king's favor by recruiting young girls for him.
This "empower yourself by discarding boundaries" has become powerful in the media and is used to rationalize a myriad of boundary dissolving behaviors
and suppress one's own dismay.
So a girl or woman who has been used by a guru may have a double trauma:
She's been betrayed by the guru and and by a woman who was her intimate friend.
In such a situation, a guru's victim may have good reason to fear that if she dares speak publicly, her identity will be known, because someone who earned her
trust as a close friend was the one who set her up to be groomed by the guru.
We do *not* know at this time if this is what happened in relation to Moo.
I am describing this as an all too common scenario and pointing out
that it is very possible that many persons who are sexually abused by gurus
are not mere faces in the crowd but are identified, known by name, their trust
and personal information is elicited by someone close to the guru who is part of the grooming process.
In short, many who are sexually victimized have already lost their privacy
before the guru violates them. They've already lost their privacy because someone close to the guru has, as part of the grooming process, befriended them
and elicted personal information from them.
This is part of the silencing process and what makes it so frightening for victims to speak publicly. Even when concealed behind a username, a victim
may be identifiable to the person who recruited her for a powerful man.