Although you may perceive that someone decides to leave in the middle of the night and that they acted irrationally, often it's a confusing one-sided story that group members latch onto. Groups always have a rational explanation for why someone left, and the weight of group tendency to agree can really confuse any ex-member, in particular these few you have named in an attempt to shame:
The group dynamic, the "definition of the situation" is always heavily manipulated by any group leader:
[www.thoughtco.com]
If there is no reason for someone to flee in middle of the night, your worldview is secure. If there is, at first the group will likely seek to quash it and discredit it, so that their shit holds together. Only when under pressure, will any vague attempt be made to reconsider the current paradigm. Until then, the main option is "scapegoating"
[en.m.wikipedia.org]
In the cult of confession, people don't confide every little secret in the leader because they trust them, but rather because they have been conditioned to feel extreme anxiety for withholding:
[libertyforcaptives.com]
The group dynamic, the "definition of the situation" is always heavily manipulated by any group leader:
[www.thoughtco.com]
If there is no reason for someone to flee in middle of the night, your worldview is secure. If there is, at first the group will likely seek to quash it and discredit it, so that their shit holds together. Only when under pressure, will any vague attempt be made to reconsider the current paradigm. Until then, the main option is "scapegoating"
[en.m.wikipedia.org]
In the cult of confession, people don't confide every little secret in the leader because they trust them, but rather because they have been conditioned to feel extreme anxiety for withholding:
[libertyforcaptives.com]