thanks Corboy, the info on that link is exactly what I experienced.
Two points hit me particularly hard, and were very good to hear:
1. "People in totalist organisations are pressed so tightly together that their individuality is erased – as are any trusting interactions among them. Everyone is a ‘friend’ but true friendship is suppressed ... followers face a triple isolation: from the outside world, from each other within the closed system, and from their own internal dialogue, where clear thinking about the group might arise."
Peter Young openly directs (forces) his students into this "tight pressing".
In 20 years of observation of Pathgate, I've not seen one time when has this influenced any person in any positive way. It's all been hugely negative.
2. "Mary Main, the renowned attachment researcher at the University of California, Berkeley, called this type of fear-based relationship ‘disorganised attachment’. This has a two-fold result: a confused emotional bonding to the source of fear in a failed attempt to seek comfort, and a cognitive dissociation, that is, the inability to think about one’s feelings."
"Rinpochehelpedme" displays this confused emotional bonding in textbook manner.
(Not meant as a flame remark, I'm super sympathetic to it, as I was caught by it too).
Two points hit me particularly hard, and were very good to hear:
1. "People in totalist organisations are pressed so tightly together that their individuality is erased – as are any trusting interactions among them. Everyone is a ‘friend’ but true friendship is suppressed ... followers face a triple isolation: from the outside world, from each other within the closed system, and from their own internal dialogue, where clear thinking about the group might arise."
Peter Young openly directs (forces) his students into this "tight pressing".
In 20 years of observation of Pathgate, I've not seen one time when has this influenced any person in any positive way. It's all been hugely negative.
2. "Mary Main, the renowned attachment researcher at the University of California, Berkeley, called this type of fear-based relationship ‘disorganised attachment’. This has a two-fold result: a confused emotional bonding to the source of fear in a failed attempt to seek comfort, and a cognitive dissociation, that is, the inability to think about one’s feelings."
"Rinpochehelpedme" displays this confused emotional bonding in textbook manner.
(Not meant as a flame remark, I'm super sympathetic to it, as I was caught by it too).