There are those who dabble in RealLove and those who fully embrace it to the exclusion of everything else. There's a difference in how people's lives will unfold depending on which one you choose to follow.
If you just read the books, go to groups and listen in on the odd phone call or attend the odd seminar or weekend course you will just plod along and gradually either get bored with nothing much really changing or happening in your life, or you'll be happy to plod as you feel that you are getting enough from what you are doing. However, you won't be allowed to go on like this at your own leisure because there is no money in it for RealLove. So you'll be constantly pushed to have an intervention with Greg (or someone else if in UK/Europe) and be told that you are not taking RealLove seriously - or that you don't care enough for your self. What this implies is that unless you fully embrace and immerse yourself in the whole RealLove indoctrination process you'll not see any results. That's the implication - the reality is quite different (as many people are shocked to find out).
So if you sign up for the full deal you will have to have an intervention. You are lead to believe that this is just talking about yourself and your issues, but in actual fact its a whole lot more. Its not expected in any other form of therapeutic practice. Only cults want to know everything - because knowing everything means more control of you, knowing how you think and feel and function. Where to push your buttons, how to break you, how to lift you. How to manage you so that you stay a long-term, big spending customer.
The full deal is not how RealLove sells itself and is totally different to what you think you are going to get. Beware. In order for RealLove to work properly, we are told, you have to go back to your childhood, share everything about yourself (12-step program style truth telling as the basis) to your daddy and in groups (as well as any other RealLove event). You will not to stop looking into any other aspects of therapeutic help and assistance. No reading up on any other topics that might help you. No other groups or activities. No yoga, mindfulness, meditation, relaxation or other practices to relax you. No work on self-love. There has to be a strict and full immersion into RealLove and all things RealLove, all the time, day and night. RealLove will not work if you don't follow this advice. Of course it wont work - because you wont be mind-controlled that's why! You will be pushed and insulted to be made angry as part of RealLove helping you to heal (not that you will ever heal, you'll end up being far worse as a consequence of joining). You will have to get a daddy (coach) who will coach, guide, suggest, advise and tell you what to do. In fact, take over all your decisions and choices for you, write down what you need to say or do, how to act, what to believe, how to think...…
Part of this 'immersion' process is to read RealLove books, over and over to the exclusion of all others. Go to as many groups as you can. Listen in on nightly conference calls. Do the 12-month program, seminars, weekend courses etc. Just concentrate your whole life and all you do on RealLove activities only. Like they say "Or it wont work". And boy does this work or does this work!! WOW. This immersion, with interventions and a daddy controlling your life really does completely alter your mind and ability to run your own life. It will transform you - but not in the way you think it will. The immersion process has, as its best and most effective tool, the Greg-chat videos and recordings. Greg himself advises to listen to them while you sleep as they will be doing their work while you are completely asleep as much as awake and consciously listening. Of course, that is the nature of suggestive hypnosis - that it works without you realising it. The more you can listen and watch these every day (as many hours dedicated to this as possible) and night (as many nights as possible) the better - it is said. That is totally true! The more people do listen and watch, the more mind-controlled and manipulatable they become. You can see people change and alter right before your eyes.
So, for those who immerse like this, they will very soon 'get' RealLove and be a total mind-controlled-zombie who does as told, believes everything, and goes along with everything. For those who don't immerse they will not 'get' RealLove in the same way. These are what become the intolerable 'difficult' or 'needy' people who, so they are told, aren't trying hard enough, believing the lies, are in pain, need a daddy-Greg intervention (even if having had one or more previously). These are the people who think/believe they are doing RealLove to be coached into being a more loving person, to be a better man or woman at dating others and/or having a loving relationship with a significant other. These people want to know how they failed in relationships, what did they do wrong and how can they be better - which does not need a full on psychological profile or being regressed back to childhood by laying in the arms of a daddy/coach and being an adult baby. These people are sad, broken, depressed, lonely, frustrated and are desperate for some sort of help. But, by not immersing and being under mind-control they appear to be needy and difficult. They are not tolerated because RealLove is not actually about helping people who are in this situation at all - even though that's how they pitch their promotion of RealLove. RealLove heavily promotes the concept of "getting loved" and yet when these people seek this they are instead shunned, mocked and pushed away as being too difficult and not taking RealLove seriously etc. Eventually, if you don't immerse to the point of being controlled, RealLove loses patience with you and pushes you away altogether. But, if you are 'trying' and spending lots of money on things then they will tolerate you and let you go on as long as it takes to finally catch you.
Those who don't get it feel frustrated by this and end up with more issues because they feel that there is something wrong with them. This is not true at all, but they are nevertheless made to feel this way. These people do suffer a lot of psychological stress over time and find it hard to break free of RealLove, because they truly believe they are at fault and RealLove holds all the answers to their becoming a loving person. But what those who don't get it, don't realise, is that they are not under mind-control - which is the reason why they are not getting it. They may not be able to afford the high costs and commitment to all that is expected of them. The time needed to immerse in everything properly will mean either not working and having the time, or indeed, immersing for all the hours you can after work until late at night and all weekend. Money is a problem for others - they just don't have the money that is expected. However, some are in debt for years after having had their intervention and signing up to everything - forfeiting a social life and other productive activities in favour of the utopia that RealLove purports to offer but which never delivers.
What of those that totally immerse? Simple. They get fully under mind control and totally enthralled in RealLove and Greg Baer to the exclusion of everything else in their life. That's what immersion does. You will see the person immersing change very quickly and radically. Their attitude, behaviours, personality. What they say. What they do. Some people look empty and like a zombie. Others just go on and on and on about RealLove and can't seem to talk about or engage in any other type of discussion. Others change quite dramatically - their personality can go from cheerful, carefree and happy to tense, distracted, short-tempered, angry, curt, dismissive. You cannot get through to them on any level any more. The person you knew has gone, has been suppressed, distorted, manipulated. It is very difficult for people when they eventually leave a cult - and RealLove is no different - to just go back to being theirself again, as their mind has been so distorted. It takes time for them to rediscover who they are and begin healing - not only what has happened to them from the experience of mind-control, but a whole load of new issues on top of the original stuff that drew them to RealLove for help in the first place!
RealLove immersion - or mind-control - causes the person to drink the Koolaid because that's what their RealLove daddy tells them to do. And they do.
Divorce your partner/drink the koolaid - done!
Reject your parents/drink the koolaid - done!
Stop all contact with your family and extended family/drink the koolaid - done!
Don't socialise with friends and coworkers anymore/drink the koolaid - done!
Forget your children/drink the koolaid - done!
Donate money to RealLove/drink the koolaid - done!
Take your clothes off while having a hold/drink the koolaid - done!
Do everything RealLove despite the costs because if you are serious you will find the money or get a loan/drink the koolaid - done!
Start dating this person we have selected for you/drink the koolaid - done!
We advise that you should marry this person we told you to date/drink the koolaid - done!
Go find a religion as RealLove will only work properly when you do. We advise Mormonism as it most closely aligns with Reallove/drink the koolaid - done!
Do as you are told to do. Follow these written instructions as to what to say/drink the koolaid - done!
You must wait for 2 years before you will be ready to date/drink the koolaid - done!
You are not ready to keep dating, you must stop until we tell you when to start again and who with/drink the koolaid - done!
Don't engage with anyone who challenges RealLove or who appears to criticise as they are splashing you and will damage you by taking you on the field of death. Assertiveness is disallowed. An assertive person is taking you on the field of death so stop and walk away / drink the koolaid - done!
You cannot have a relationship with anyone who not doing RealLove. We will not help you unless the other person joins RealLove too/drink the koolaid - done!
And so it goes..... And so it goes..... And so it goes....
Why do RealLove adherents drink the koolaid?
Because daddy-Greg or one of his personally trained and accredited daddies (or mummies) says so. They always tell the truth, so why would you question them or go against what they say to do. They know what is best for you more than you do. They love you more than anybody and only have your best interests at heart (more than anyone else in the whole world). Because they are your adoptive parents and therefore know what is right for you. Because your RL daddy would not let any harm come to you. Because your RL daddy would not give you the wrong advice. Your RealLove daddy loves you. Therefore, there is no need whatsoever to question or judge what the daddy tells you to do. Ever.
This means, for example, that when you are coerced into becoming a Mormon, you need not do any research. You don't need to find out anything about it, its history, its practices, hierarchy or even if it resonates or repulses you. That's because daddy has made the decision and all you have to do is follow what you have been told to do. (aka drink the koolaid)
The same too for divorcing or splitting up, rejecting people, dating, marrying, parenting, everything. You might be told to do things that instantly do not rest well on your conscious - but you'll do them anyway and you will be led to believe that you are 'being loving' by doing so.
So, beware, behind the façade of promotional materials that tease with ideals of helping you to be coached towards being a better and more loving person, and despite it looking and appearing to be bonafide and enticing - it's a scam. A scam, because you are not being coached - you are being mind-controlled and made to drink the koolaid without question. AND YOU WILL. RealLove is not coaching. It's a cult with the explicit intention of recruiting as many people as possible into Mormonism. And if you are of another faith, atheist or don't join you can be guaranteed that you will be living, thinking and behaving as a practicing Mormon anyway - because that is what the RealLove way is. The hope is that RealLove will dominate your life to such a degree that you will transition to Mormonism and convert at some time, and it doesn't matter when.
The people de-toxing from their involvement in RealLove cannot believe that they willingly and unquestioningly kept drinking the koolaid.
When you are so enthralled and under mind-control you don't know it. You think everyone else has the problem until you wake up one day and realise what's happened and try to piece together your fractured life and rebuild all the bridges you were told to burn and break. The disbelief at what you have done will be overwhelming. It will take a long time to find yourself and get a life again, make your own decisions and choices and feel happy. But you can't do this until the psychological cold turkey from the mind altering mind-control practices is over and your mind calm and settled again and able to function.
Is RealLove a cult? Sure is. Is there good stuff to learn? Sure is. However, the good stuff is the carrot that pulls you in with hope and anticipation, but once you bite into it you'll be drinking the koolaid.
If you just read the books, go to groups and listen in on the odd phone call or attend the odd seminar or weekend course you will just plod along and gradually either get bored with nothing much really changing or happening in your life, or you'll be happy to plod as you feel that you are getting enough from what you are doing. However, you won't be allowed to go on like this at your own leisure because there is no money in it for RealLove. So you'll be constantly pushed to have an intervention with Greg (or someone else if in UK/Europe) and be told that you are not taking RealLove seriously - or that you don't care enough for your self. What this implies is that unless you fully embrace and immerse yourself in the whole RealLove indoctrination process you'll not see any results. That's the implication - the reality is quite different (as many people are shocked to find out).
So if you sign up for the full deal you will have to have an intervention. You are lead to believe that this is just talking about yourself and your issues, but in actual fact its a whole lot more. Its not expected in any other form of therapeutic practice. Only cults want to know everything - because knowing everything means more control of you, knowing how you think and feel and function. Where to push your buttons, how to break you, how to lift you. How to manage you so that you stay a long-term, big spending customer.
The full deal is not how RealLove sells itself and is totally different to what you think you are going to get. Beware. In order for RealLove to work properly, we are told, you have to go back to your childhood, share everything about yourself (12-step program style truth telling as the basis) to your daddy and in groups (as well as any other RealLove event). You will not to stop looking into any other aspects of therapeutic help and assistance. No reading up on any other topics that might help you. No other groups or activities. No yoga, mindfulness, meditation, relaxation or other practices to relax you. No work on self-love. There has to be a strict and full immersion into RealLove and all things RealLove, all the time, day and night. RealLove will not work if you don't follow this advice. Of course it wont work - because you wont be mind-controlled that's why! You will be pushed and insulted to be made angry as part of RealLove helping you to heal (not that you will ever heal, you'll end up being far worse as a consequence of joining). You will have to get a daddy (coach) who will coach, guide, suggest, advise and tell you what to do. In fact, take over all your decisions and choices for you, write down what you need to say or do, how to act, what to believe, how to think...…
Part of this 'immersion' process is to read RealLove books, over and over to the exclusion of all others. Go to as many groups as you can. Listen in on nightly conference calls. Do the 12-month program, seminars, weekend courses etc. Just concentrate your whole life and all you do on RealLove activities only. Like they say "Or it wont work". And boy does this work or does this work!! WOW. This immersion, with interventions and a daddy controlling your life really does completely alter your mind and ability to run your own life. It will transform you - but not in the way you think it will. The immersion process has, as its best and most effective tool, the Greg-chat videos and recordings. Greg himself advises to listen to them while you sleep as they will be doing their work while you are completely asleep as much as awake and consciously listening. Of course, that is the nature of suggestive hypnosis - that it works without you realising it. The more you can listen and watch these every day (as many hours dedicated to this as possible) and night (as many nights as possible) the better - it is said. That is totally true! The more people do listen and watch, the more mind-controlled and manipulatable they become. You can see people change and alter right before your eyes.
So, for those who immerse like this, they will very soon 'get' RealLove and be a total mind-controlled-zombie who does as told, believes everything, and goes along with everything. For those who don't immerse they will not 'get' RealLove in the same way. These are what become the intolerable 'difficult' or 'needy' people who, so they are told, aren't trying hard enough, believing the lies, are in pain, need a daddy-Greg intervention (even if having had one or more previously). These are the people who think/believe they are doing RealLove to be coached into being a more loving person, to be a better man or woman at dating others and/or having a loving relationship with a significant other. These people want to know how they failed in relationships, what did they do wrong and how can they be better - which does not need a full on psychological profile or being regressed back to childhood by laying in the arms of a daddy/coach and being an adult baby. These people are sad, broken, depressed, lonely, frustrated and are desperate for some sort of help. But, by not immersing and being under mind-control they appear to be needy and difficult. They are not tolerated because RealLove is not actually about helping people who are in this situation at all - even though that's how they pitch their promotion of RealLove. RealLove heavily promotes the concept of "getting loved" and yet when these people seek this they are instead shunned, mocked and pushed away as being too difficult and not taking RealLove seriously etc. Eventually, if you don't immerse to the point of being controlled, RealLove loses patience with you and pushes you away altogether. But, if you are 'trying' and spending lots of money on things then they will tolerate you and let you go on as long as it takes to finally catch you.
Those who don't get it feel frustrated by this and end up with more issues because they feel that there is something wrong with them. This is not true at all, but they are nevertheless made to feel this way. These people do suffer a lot of psychological stress over time and find it hard to break free of RealLove, because they truly believe they are at fault and RealLove holds all the answers to their becoming a loving person. But what those who don't get it, don't realise, is that they are not under mind-control - which is the reason why they are not getting it. They may not be able to afford the high costs and commitment to all that is expected of them. The time needed to immerse in everything properly will mean either not working and having the time, or indeed, immersing for all the hours you can after work until late at night and all weekend. Money is a problem for others - they just don't have the money that is expected. However, some are in debt for years after having had their intervention and signing up to everything - forfeiting a social life and other productive activities in favour of the utopia that RealLove purports to offer but which never delivers.
What of those that totally immerse? Simple. They get fully under mind control and totally enthralled in RealLove and Greg Baer to the exclusion of everything else in their life. That's what immersion does. You will see the person immersing change very quickly and radically. Their attitude, behaviours, personality. What they say. What they do. Some people look empty and like a zombie. Others just go on and on and on about RealLove and can't seem to talk about or engage in any other type of discussion. Others change quite dramatically - their personality can go from cheerful, carefree and happy to tense, distracted, short-tempered, angry, curt, dismissive. You cannot get through to them on any level any more. The person you knew has gone, has been suppressed, distorted, manipulated. It is very difficult for people when they eventually leave a cult - and RealLove is no different - to just go back to being theirself again, as their mind has been so distorted. It takes time for them to rediscover who they are and begin healing - not only what has happened to them from the experience of mind-control, but a whole load of new issues on top of the original stuff that drew them to RealLove for help in the first place!
RealLove immersion - or mind-control - causes the person to drink the Koolaid because that's what their RealLove daddy tells them to do. And they do.
Divorce your partner/drink the koolaid - done!
Reject your parents/drink the koolaid - done!
Stop all contact with your family and extended family/drink the koolaid - done!
Don't socialise with friends and coworkers anymore/drink the koolaid - done!
Forget your children/drink the koolaid - done!
Donate money to RealLove/drink the koolaid - done!
Take your clothes off while having a hold/drink the koolaid - done!
Do everything RealLove despite the costs because if you are serious you will find the money or get a loan/drink the koolaid - done!
Start dating this person we have selected for you/drink the koolaid - done!
We advise that you should marry this person we told you to date/drink the koolaid - done!
Go find a religion as RealLove will only work properly when you do. We advise Mormonism as it most closely aligns with Reallove/drink the koolaid - done!
Do as you are told to do. Follow these written instructions as to what to say/drink the koolaid - done!
You must wait for 2 years before you will be ready to date/drink the koolaid - done!
You are not ready to keep dating, you must stop until we tell you when to start again and who with/drink the koolaid - done!
Don't engage with anyone who challenges RealLove or who appears to criticise as they are splashing you and will damage you by taking you on the field of death. Assertiveness is disallowed. An assertive person is taking you on the field of death so stop and walk away / drink the koolaid - done!
You cannot have a relationship with anyone who not doing RealLove. We will not help you unless the other person joins RealLove too/drink the koolaid - done!
And so it goes..... And so it goes..... And so it goes....
Why do RealLove adherents drink the koolaid?
Because daddy-Greg or one of his personally trained and accredited daddies (or mummies) says so. They always tell the truth, so why would you question them or go against what they say to do. They know what is best for you more than you do. They love you more than anybody and only have your best interests at heart (more than anyone else in the whole world). Because they are your adoptive parents and therefore know what is right for you. Because your RL daddy would not let any harm come to you. Because your RL daddy would not give you the wrong advice. Your RealLove daddy loves you. Therefore, there is no need whatsoever to question or judge what the daddy tells you to do. Ever.
This means, for example, that when you are coerced into becoming a Mormon, you need not do any research. You don't need to find out anything about it, its history, its practices, hierarchy or even if it resonates or repulses you. That's because daddy has made the decision and all you have to do is follow what you have been told to do. (aka drink the koolaid)
The same too for divorcing or splitting up, rejecting people, dating, marrying, parenting, everything. You might be told to do things that instantly do not rest well on your conscious - but you'll do them anyway and you will be led to believe that you are 'being loving' by doing so.
So, beware, behind the façade of promotional materials that tease with ideals of helping you to be coached towards being a better and more loving person, and despite it looking and appearing to be bonafide and enticing - it's a scam. A scam, because you are not being coached - you are being mind-controlled and made to drink the koolaid without question. AND YOU WILL. RealLove is not coaching. It's a cult with the explicit intention of recruiting as many people as possible into Mormonism. And if you are of another faith, atheist or don't join you can be guaranteed that you will be living, thinking and behaving as a practicing Mormon anyway - because that is what the RealLove way is. The hope is that RealLove will dominate your life to such a degree that you will transition to Mormonism and convert at some time, and it doesn't matter when.
The people de-toxing from their involvement in RealLove cannot believe that they willingly and unquestioningly kept drinking the koolaid.
When you are so enthralled and under mind-control you don't know it. You think everyone else has the problem until you wake up one day and realise what's happened and try to piece together your fractured life and rebuild all the bridges you were told to burn and break. The disbelief at what you have done will be overwhelming. It will take a long time to find yourself and get a life again, make your own decisions and choices and feel happy. But you can't do this until the psychological cold turkey from the mind altering mind-control practices is over and your mind calm and settled again and able to function.
Is RealLove a cult? Sure is. Is there good stuff to learn? Sure is. However, the good stuff is the carrot that pulls you in with hope and anticipation, but once you bite into it you'll be drinking the koolaid.