Small suggestion:
When you get a medical check up, tell your physician what you've
been through and name your abuser.
Make it clear others have been harmed, are scared to speak out
and some report feeling terrified and suicidal.
If more of us describe this to physicians, dentists and other health care providers this educates them.
A battering relationship is a battering relationship, whether its an abusive
parent, partner, horrid boss -- and especially if it is a cult as described here.
Cults always begin with lies.
If PY had told you at the very beginning, this is how you will feel after X years of trusting me as your leader -- none of you would have become involved with him.
The glory and danger of being human is we adapt to and can normalize anything if we remain in a situation long enough.
This has enabled our ancestors to survive disasters - war, conquest, the terror of repeated bubonic plague and smallpox epidemics century upon century and not giving up.
And this same resilience and adaptability is used against us very cleverly, by cult leaders, tricking us to enter band situations and continue remaining in those situations by making it difficult for us to quit -- this is what is termed
increasing the exit costs.
Result is we stay in bad situations long enough to get used to ever increasing increments of abusive behavior from the leader.
Note: that same adaptability enables students to adjust to the ordeal of medical school and law school and emerge as physicians and attorneys; it enables others to adjust to the ordeal of military training and become combat ready.
And cult leaders knowingly use this adaptability against us.
You've not married PY you've not engaged to marry him, you have the right to end the relationship without him issuing threats or worse.
We actually forget we have rights.
Basic human rights - whether from God or if we are secular as defined by the United Nations or the laws of our country.
Customer/consumer rights. If you pay PY you have the right to get quality service in return
The right to change your mind
When you get a medical check up, tell your physician what you've
been through and name your abuser.
Make it clear others have been harmed, are scared to speak out
and some report feeling terrified and suicidal.
If more of us describe this to physicians, dentists and other health care providers this educates them.
A battering relationship is a battering relationship, whether its an abusive
parent, partner, horrid boss -- and especially if it is a cult as described here.
Cults always begin with lies.
If PY had told you at the very beginning, this is how you will feel after X years of trusting me as your leader -- none of you would have become involved with him.
The glory and danger of being human is we adapt to and can normalize anything if we remain in a situation long enough.
This has enabled our ancestors to survive disasters - war, conquest, the terror of repeated bubonic plague and smallpox epidemics century upon century and not giving up.
And this same resilience and adaptability is used against us very cleverly, by cult leaders, tricking us to enter band situations and continue remaining in those situations by making it difficult for us to quit -- this is what is termed
increasing the exit costs.
Result is we stay in bad situations long enough to get used to ever increasing increments of abusive behavior from the leader.
Note: that same adaptability enables students to adjust to the ordeal of medical school and law school and emerge as physicians and attorneys; it enables others to adjust to the ordeal of military training and become combat ready.
And cult leaders knowingly use this adaptability against us.
You've not married PY you've not engaged to marry him, you have the right to end the relationship without him issuing threats or worse.
We actually forget we have rights.
Basic human rights - whether from God or if we are secular as defined by the United Nations or the laws of our country.
Customer/consumer rights. If you pay PY you have the right to get quality service in return
The right to change your mind