Another thing keeps us trapped.
We become afraid of talking about what we have been told to do.
Why?
Because at some level, we are scared to have someone look at us horrified
and say, "They had you do WHAT?"
This leads us either not to tell our outside friends, family coworkers
what is going on in an exploitative group or relationship --- or
we cut ourselves off from anyone who might express dismay if
we tell them what goes in in the group or relationship.
It gets exhausting to "commute" between our increasingly strange lives
inside an exploitative shame laden relationship and our outside relationships.
As time goes on, we have more and more secrets to keep. Commmuting back and forth
between these two worlds gets more and more tiring.
It becomes easy to just let our outside friendships and other relationships drop away.
This isolates us and traps us within the network of relationships, the echo chamber inside the group.
We become afraid of talking about what we have been told to do.
Why?
Because at some level, we are scared to have someone look at us horrified
and say, "They had you do WHAT?"
This leads us either not to tell our outside friends, family coworkers
what is going on in an exploitative group or relationship --- or
we cut ourselves off from anyone who might express dismay if
we tell them what goes in in the group or relationship.
It gets exhausting to "commute" between our increasingly strange lives
inside an exploitative shame laden relationship and our outside relationships.
As time goes on, we have more and more secrets to keep. Commmuting back and forth
between these two worlds gets more and more tiring.
It becomes easy to just let our outside friendships and other relationships drop away.
This isolates us and traps us within the network of relationships, the echo chamber inside the group.