Yes Corboy,
You are so very, very right! My alarm bells went off pretty early, almost immediately, but I trusted these people very much so and gave it the benefit of the doubt. However, it never got beyond that point despite how much I really, truly tried to embrace this organisation. And boy, did I try. Genuinely so. But, it just grinded away every day. It just felt so wrong. I never got straight answers to anything I asked, always being referred to Greg Baer - someone whom I DO NOT want to have any association with thank you very much. Nothing was right, nothing quite fit the profile of it being a Life Coaching organisation.
Thankfully, for me I had two factors behind me which helped me from being totally sucked in to this crap. 1.) I have been in a cultic relationship with another person previously, a long time ago. So much of that cultic behaviour and mind-reshaping just kept jumping right at me, telling me that RL was using mind-control techniques and was indeed cultic. It just kept gnawing away at me. It felt like history repeating - but instead of a single person controlling me, it was an organisation with lots of people trying to influence me. I did almost get trapped. And thankfully, a short trip across to the other side of the world helped me to 'see the light' and man-up enough to be strong and get out as soon as I returned. 2.) I have had a lot of mental health treatment many years ago, and I could see a lot of practices being used openly and also by unqualified people. I knew deep inside of me, that because I have had a lot of work done, including hypnosis, I did not want to be subjected to unqualified work, on top of other work done, and end up losing my mind completely due to incompetency.
Unqualified people may believe in their own mind that they via RL have all the answers and that what they are doing is saving you, but they can (and sadly are) doing damage to people's minds - and I didn't want to be a victim. I take my mental health very seriously indeed, and I refuse to let anyone use mind control techniques on my mind without my permission - and certainly NOT anyone who is unqualified to do so. Having read four key texts on cults and what they do to people, and how long it takes for people to get their minds back and be their self again, I knew I'd made the right decision. But also, that I was right all along. My suspicions were spot on. My heart hurts for people trapped in the cult cycle, not knowing what they are doing and saying and how their life is slipping away and they are missing out on so much in that ignorance. They are gorgeous, lovely, intelligent and thoroughly interesting people who will thrive so much once they get out of RealLove. They truly believe in their heart of heart that RealLove is the answer and has helped them, yet what I and indeed others on this website who have shared their stories see, is a totally different picture. Ironically, the professional psychological help they have been advised to shun and despise will be exactly what they will need when the penny drops and they leave. They really don't understand that qualified mental health and psychological professionals really DO want their patients to get well quickly, have tools to help them live a better life, and to be healthy and whole as quickly as possible - and NOT reliant on them for life. So sad.
I pray for people fooled by and doing RealLove, as well as all people in all types of cults around the world that they may be able to see the light and get out and heal, become whole again and leave it all behind them for good. Seeing a cult first-hand, and seeing mind techniques used on people without their knowing, let alone their permission, has been the most disturbing experience of my life - and I have seen a LOT!!
Your words explain the beautiful people I know very well. I hope this Forum goes some way to helping people avoid getting involved with cults who are deceptively posing as seemingly harmless organisations. What a blessing this site is. But, so much sadness for the families affected by RealLove.
You are so very, very right! My alarm bells went off pretty early, almost immediately, but I trusted these people very much so and gave it the benefit of the doubt. However, it never got beyond that point despite how much I really, truly tried to embrace this organisation. And boy, did I try. Genuinely so. But, it just grinded away every day. It just felt so wrong. I never got straight answers to anything I asked, always being referred to Greg Baer - someone whom I DO NOT want to have any association with thank you very much. Nothing was right, nothing quite fit the profile of it being a Life Coaching organisation.
Thankfully, for me I had two factors behind me which helped me from being totally sucked in to this crap. 1.) I have been in a cultic relationship with another person previously, a long time ago. So much of that cultic behaviour and mind-reshaping just kept jumping right at me, telling me that RL was using mind-control techniques and was indeed cultic. It just kept gnawing away at me. It felt like history repeating - but instead of a single person controlling me, it was an organisation with lots of people trying to influence me. I did almost get trapped. And thankfully, a short trip across to the other side of the world helped me to 'see the light' and man-up enough to be strong and get out as soon as I returned. 2.) I have had a lot of mental health treatment many years ago, and I could see a lot of practices being used openly and also by unqualified people. I knew deep inside of me, that because I have had a lot of work done, including hypnosis, I did not want to be subjected to unqualified work, on top of other work done, and end up losing my mind completely due to incompetency.
Unqualified people may believe in their own mind that they via RL have all the answers and that what they are doing is saving you, but they can (and sadly are) doing damage to people's minds - and I didn't want to be a victim. I take my mental health very seriously indeed, and I refuse to let anyone use mind control techniques on my mind without my permission - and certainly NOT anyone who is unqualified to do so. Having read four key texts on cults and what they do to people, and how long it takes for people to get their minds back and be their self again, I knew I'd made the right decision. But also, that I was right all along. My suspicions were spot on. My heart hurts for people trapped in the cult cycle, not knowing what they are doing and saying and how their life is slipping away and they are missing out on so much in that ignorance. They are gorgeous, lovely, intelligent and thoroughly interesting people who will thrive so much once they get out of RealLove. They truly believe in their heart of heart that RealLove is the answer and has helped them, yet what I and indeed others on this website who have shared their stories see, is a totally different picture. Ironically, the professional psychological help they have been advised to shun and despise will be exactly what they will need when the penny drops and they leave. They really don't understand that qualified mental health and psychological professionals really DO want their patients to get well quickly, have tools to help them live a better life, and to be healthy and whole as quickly as possible - and NOT reliant on them for life. So sad.
I pray for people fooled by and doing RealLove, as well as all people in all types of cults around the world that they may be able to see the light and get out and heal, become whole again and leave it all behind them for good. Seeing a cult first-hand, and seeing mind techniques used on people without their knowing, let alone their permission, has been the most disturbing experience of my life - and I have seen a LOT!!
Your words explain the beautiful people I know very well. I hope this Forum goes some way to helping people avoid getting involved with cults who are deceptively posing as seemingly harmless organisations. What a blessing this site is. But, so much sadness for the families affected by RealLove.