happytown Wrote:
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> "Until then, when your guru chairs a board meeting
> and it becomes obvious that he has no clue about
> an issue, as a prudent member of that board you
> shouldn’t hesitate to supply him with the
> information he needs. At the same time, as a
> Vajrayana student, you must skilfully remind
> yourself the guru only looks clueless to you
> because of your own impure perception, and that by
> appearing to need your assistance the guru is
> actually giving you the chance to accumulate
> merit."
>
> I CAN'T BELIEVE I ACTUALLY USED TO THINK LIKE
> THIS!!!!!
Isn't that the ultimate gaslighting technique? Training you to believe your perceptions don't count and aren't trustworthy. That's very insidious. But also keep in mind that this is what narcissistic parents do to their kids: deny the child's perceptions, lead them to think their thinking is off-base. Kids raised in an environment like that grow up to be extremely vulnerable to predators and scammers, because they don't know how to listen to their inner voice, their gut feelings about things. Something tells me that TB groups, especially those run by these ego-driven opportunists, are full of people who grew up trained not to trust their instincts or to think about their own needs.
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> "Until then, when your guru chairs a board meeting
> and it becomes obvious that he has no clue about
> an issue, as a prudent member of that board you
> shouldn’t hesitate to supply him with the
> information he needs. At the same time, as a
> Vajrayana student, you must skilfully remind
> yourself the guru only looks clueless to you
> because of your own impure perception, and that by
> appearing to need your assistance the guru is
> actually giving you the chance to accumulate
> merit."
>
> I CAN'T BELIEVE I ACTUALLY USED TO THINK LIKE
> THIS!!!!!
Isn't that the ultimate gaslighting technique? Training you to believe your perceptions don't count and aren't trustworthy. That's very insidious. But also keep in mind that this is what narcissistic parents do to their kids: deny the child's perceptions, lead them to think their thinking is off-base. Kids raised in an environment like that grow up to be extremely vulnerable to predators and scammers, because they don't know how to listen to their inner voice, their gut feelings about things. Something tells me that TB groups, especially those run by these ego-driven opportunists, are full of people who grew up trained not to trust their instincts or to think about their own needs.