This is from a discussion about Large Group Awareness Trainings. But
it applies to many other exploitative groups and leaders as well.
[forum.culteducation.com]
The best recruiters are people you already trust. And the best recruiters
are not pushy. They are sincerely enthusiastic.
You are therefore much less likely to research this leader and group your
friend is involved with.
Even if you do learn alarming information about this group, you
may feel afraid to compromise a valued relationship by taking this
seriously. You may persuade yourself that this is obsolete
information, that it is about a different sect from the one your
friend is in.
You become an enabler for your friend by making these excuses to yourself.
You will not be aware that it is bad sign for you to feel this kind
of fear in the context of a relationship.
The most effective recruiters for a cult do not know that they and their
sincerity -- are being pimped by their group.
Pimped to to recruit for their guru or group via their existing relationships.
Without knowing it, your compromised friend or relative may through their enthusiasm recommend that you consult a yoga teacher, body worker or life coach
who is, without your pal knowing it, a high level member of the group who
may through the client provider relationship, bring the recruitment to a
more sophisticated level.
You will feel as though you are making free choices. But if the rules of engagement for your friendship have changed to serve the exploitative
agenda of a dishonest group or leader -- you and your buddy
are not making free choices.
Because freedom of choice is possible ONLY if you are fully informed of the
role this group and leader are playing in influencing your friend and her
recommendations to you.
When a subject is newly recruited, he or she has been given the
sunny side of the group. He or she is excited, happy. He or she has
not been in the group long enough to notice patterns of favoritism, has
not been exposed to features and doctrine that the cult hides from
the public -- and hides to the joyous new recruits.be privy to burdensome secrets.
If your friend or beloved relative or mentor is in this condition, he or she
has been made an "agent of deployment".*
You do not know it, but once your loved one or mentor has become
indoctrinated, the rules of engagement you once shared with
this person are no longer shared.
This subject is not yet aware that he or she has become incapable of
genuine friendship, for there's now a hidden, dictatorial third party -
the guru or group-- by which all other relationships and beliefs
are evaluated, and deemed threatening or supportive.
Your friend will feel saved, transformed, redeemed, illumined.
Your friend is unaware that deceit combined with ordinary
manipulation techniques have created all this.
You are now either a potential ally/recruit or a potential threat.
You are a person from whom secrets must be kept.
And your friend, feeling saved from death, whether spiritual or social,
will be convinced that it is worthy to lie to you, so long as
you either join the group and become saved or at least remain
supportive of your friend's cult identity.
Anything that might cause you to get a skeptical facial expression,
--your indoctrinated buddy will keep it from you, or soft-pedal it.
Meanwhile, you love and trust your friend, so you will likely
consider it unthinkable to research whatever or whoever has
made your friend seem happy and fulfilled.
So, yes indeed. We are less likely to run due diligence Google searches
on anything a loved one. friend or mentor is involved with.
it applies to many other exploitative groups and leaders as well.
[forum.culteducation.com]
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Kdag you're absolutely spot on- it's recognized as one of their tactics to be introduced by someone you trust. That person has already been coerced into their way of thinking so they will swear up and down how much it has changed their lives for the better. This is why they won't advertise- they don't want people knowing about the program without it being from someone who is a zealot for their organization. If they advertise- people research.
The best recruiters are people you already trust. And the best recruiters
are not pushy. They are sincerely enthusiastic.
You are therefore much less likely to research this leader and group your
friend is involved with.
Even if you do learn alarming information about this group, you
may feel afraid to compromise a valued relationship by taking this
seriously. You may persuade yourself that this is obsolete
information, that it is about a different sect from the one your
friend is in.
You become an enabler for your friend by making these excuses to yourself.
You will not be aware that it is bad sign for you to feel this kind
of fear in the context of a relationship.
The most effective recruiters for a cult do not know that they and their
sincerity -- are being pimped by their group.
Pimped to to recruit for their guru or group via their existing relationships.
Without knowing it, your compromised friend or relative may through their enthusiasm recommend that you consult a yoga teacher, body worker or life coach
who is, without your pal knowing it, a high level member of the group who
may through the client provider relationship, bring the recruitment to a
more sophisticated level.
You will feel as though you are making free choices. But if the rules of engagement for your friendship have changed to serve the exploitative
agenda of a dishonest group or leader -- you and your buddy
are not making free choices.
Because freedom of choice is possible ONLY if you are fully informed of the
role this group and leader are playing in influencing your friend and her
recommendations to you.
When a subject is newly recruited, he or she has been given the
sunny side of the group. He or she is excited, happy. He or she has
not been in the group long enough to notice patterns of favoritism, has
not been exposed to features and doctrine that the cult hides from
the public -- and hides to the joyous new recruits.be privy to burdensome secrets.
If your friend or beloved relative or mentor is in this condition, he or she
has been made an "agent of deployment".*
You do not know it, but once your loved one or mentor has become
indoctrinated, the rules of engagement you once shared with
this person are no longer shared.
This subject is not yet aware that he or she has become incapable of
genuine friendship, for there's now a hidden, dictatorial third party -
the guru or group-- by which all other relationships and beliefs
are evaluated, and deemed threatening or supportive.
Your friend will feel saved, transformed, redeemed, illumined.
Your friend is unaware that deceit combined with ordinary
manipulation techniques have created all this.
You are now either a potential ally/recruit or a potential threat.
You are a person from whom secrets must be kept.
And your friend, feeling saved from death, whether spiritual or social,
will be convinced that it is worthy to lie to you, so long as
you either join the group and become saved or at least remain
supportive of your friend's cult identity.
Anything that might cause you to get a skeptical facial expression,
--your indoctrinated buddy will keep it from you, or soft-pedal it.
Meanwhile, you love and trust your friend, so you will likely
consider it unthinkable to research whatever or whoever has
made your friend seem happy and fulfilled.
So, yes indeed. We are less likely to run due diligence Google searches
on anything a loved one. friend or mentor is involved with.